How To Break Up With A Chick Without Drama

By Jason Solis | Published: May 13, 2013

Yes, breaking up with someone is never easy. The ties you both have bonded together are hard to undo. But growing up has to happen and at times, it means growing apart. It would have been easy if both of you grew your separate ways. But what if you have grown and your girlfriend still clings to a past you just can’t live with?

drawing image of picture torn with a man and woman on either side

Breaking up: sometimes a real necessary evil with the women you meet online!

Learned this the hard way. Awhile back, I met a girl on a website named justhookup.com. Little did I know I met one of the only women on that whole site, as a recent review of justhookup from meeting-women-online.com available here outlines the site as a complete illegit scam. Anyways – I did date this girl for awhile, and after breaking up with her, she spray painted my car, broke into my house and tried to set fire to my shed. That got me thinkging about the way I break up with women (not to mention the selection process by which I choose women and the websites I join …). Still the perpetual question that was raised by this whole thing is … how can you then break it all up without so much drama?

This is a million dollar question and the answers are rarely definite. But here are some helpful tips that will help you on this quest.

  1. Be certain that you really want to break up. One thing that will trigger a girlfriend to hold on is your uncertainty of breaking up. Smelling one drop of doubt from you will give your girlfriend hope to still make the relationship work. So think and think hard. Don’t let emotion guide you on this decision although relationships are often guided with mixed emotions.
  2. Don’t use technology to send your break up message. Man up and tell her face to face. There might be some crying or throwing of hurtful words but as soon as it’s out and clear, everything will simmer down. Just go through it and let all emotions flow. Time will eventually help ease her pain and both of you can move on.
  3. Choose a comfortable place to break up. Don’t break up with her while having a coffee. This might be ideal to do in her porch, just outside her house or apartment. This way, when turbulence have pass, you can take your leave quickly.
  4. Be honest. Don’t say “It’s not you, it’s me” because it does not sound like you are being truthful about the reason of the break up. Don’t use breakup cliches. If you don’t have feelings anymore, just tell her. Don’t make up something just to turn her off. Just be honest and tell her the truth that you no long feel the same way about her. This might be hard if you have met someone new but it would still be better that she knew from you firsthand than finding out later.
  5. Don’t prolong the agony. Let her pour out all emotions. Listen to all her hurts. But when it’s time to go, you have to go. Don’t spend a “last intimate moment” with her.
  6. Be humble throughout the experience. Say sorry if you have to. If she throws a tantrum, just let her. Be kind but always remember to be firm with your decision. Don’t change your mind just because you feel pity.
  7. While you are on a rush to go, don’t make her feel as though you are in a rush. One thing you don’t want to do is add more insult. You already dump her; you don’t want to make her feel more insulted by rushing somewhere else after you told her you want it over. Stay a while to listen to her woes and let her slap you a bit.
  8. Don’t give her any false hope. Once you have said your piece, don’t offer comfort by telling her you can still be friends because you really can’t, not right away. You have to really severe the ties. If you have the same circle of friends, try to put some distance and not hang with them for a while. You have to let time ease everything up.

At the end of the day, you have to ensure you have severe the ties and keep it severed for a while. This is a very awkward and hard situation to go through but being firm about the break up will prevent more drama (especially on FB) in the future. Just one time lashing and you are done.

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Microsoft: Can Windows 8 Save It?

By Jason Solis | Published: March 8, 2013

New Software and New Tablet.

Microsoft have fallen behind companies such as Apple in the past and have not always done a great deal to rectify the situation, but it finally seems that they have realised that they need to take action before they are the forgotten company of software. With the management determined to get back their ranking, things are finally going in the right direction.

With the help of a proactive and interesting advertising campaign, they got a lot of interest shown in Windows 7 and fortunately this was a successful product. They now need to do the same with Windows 8, but this could prove to be difficult as they had done so much to convince people that Windows 7 was just what they needed.

Microsoft will launch Windows 8, the latest version of its ubiquitous

Microsoft will launch Windows 8, the latest version of its ubiquitous

Any ground that had been lost to Apple needs to be regained and it is Windows 8 that is going to have to do a lot of the work. There has not been the same sudden and vast interest that there was in Windows 7 and so Microsoft need to get together an advertising campaign to rival the one they produced for Windows 7 and they need to let people know exactly what Windows 8 has to offer, and why it is better than the competition.

To begin with Windows 8 is much faster but it is going to take more than that to convince people that they really need another updated system. The item that they are hoping to make all the difference is a system they have called “File History” and it is so easy to use that no one will have any problems with it. This is going to alter the way that files and folders are saved and will not only make anything that is saved safer but the ease of use will take away any fear that the process has not been followed properly. Knowing work is safe has got to be a good selling point considering everything we store on our devices nowadays.

Windows 7

Windows 7

There is a back-up plan just in case Windows 8 does not take off in the way that the management at Microsoft hope and this is in the shape of a new device that will be provided with Windows 8 installed. If the new tablet and Windows 8 together can’t save Microsoft then it is going to be a while before they are challenging with the big boys again.

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Keeping the In Laws Out of Your Relationship.

By Jason Solis | Published: March 7, 2013

There are going to be times when you don’t see eye to eye with your in-laws and if they criticise you as a couple you can fight back as a couple. But what do you do when it is you that is being criticised and often only when your spouse is not there to hear it? If you wear trousers and get told that skirts are more suitable or told that you should be dressing your child more appropriately than you are, how do you respond?


Firstly you need to make sure that you can get your partner on side. If the barbs are not made in front of them, you need to get into a situation where the in-law has to repeat their opinion. It will be a very cool person who can give a completely different answer with their child present than they gave you when you were alone. Hopefully realising that they can be put in the same position the next time they criticise you may be enough to stop their little game, but if not then you have to step things up a bit. As long as you know that comments are meant to wound find a way to protect yourself.

Research indicates that the mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship in particular is often fraught with problems

Research indicates that the mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship in particular is often fraught with problems

Next time they say you should wear a skirt, say their son – not your spouse, but their son – prefers it if you wear trousers. He would not be happy if you stopped but tell them if they really think that then you will change. It is very likely that they will then worry that they are going to upset their son and has also just conceded that they do not know as much about his opinions as they would have liked you to believe.

When it comes to more general opinions it is likely that they may know better than you and so it will be a good idea to let them have the victories that they deserves. Sometimes you have to lose the battle to win the war and the less of a chance you give them to say that you will just not be told, the less chance they have of proving you wrong and causing conflict with your spouse.

They want to know what the kids are doing. Here's how to fill them in

They want to know what the kids are doing. Here’s how to fill them in

If they involve the children in any situation then for a while try to keep them apart. If the children are allowed to do things you don’t want them to do when the in laws have them, then you can subtly let them know that that is the reason for your decision.

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Tragedy and Loss-How to Deal with Them

By Jason Solis | Published: March 6, 2013

We often stop to think about death in a serious light every time we hear somebody passed away. We also think about the tragedies people are facing all over the world everyday like famines, earthquakes and poverty all leading to families losing their members and people losing the ones most close to them. Like the universal fact that we are all made humans, it is also true that we all go through grief and emotions associated with loss. Dealing with death differs from culture to culture, family to family and even person to person but the underlying emotion is the same-pain and sorrow. No expert in this world can tell us the answers related to why we have to deal with death and how can we skip this grief in our life. All that we can take help from is understanding and accepting the process of grief because once you know what you are going through and will be going through, you feel a little bit relieved.

The reason why we feel grief after someone passes away is the attachment and association we had with that person. We are too used to having them around and we cannot imagine our world without them. Initially, you will be in shock and denial because you refuse to accept the fact that they are not going to be around anymore. You may also not understand what you are thinking or going through and this stage of shock will probably last for one to three days. Some people might not take the news as hard as others but irrespective of that, the stage of shock can be very difficult and hard.

Shock, Denial, Bargaining, Guilt, Anger, Depression and finally, Acceptanc

Shock, Denial, Bargaining, Guilt, Anger, Depression and finally, Acceptanc

For many people, perhaps the harder part even is once the shock wears off and you realize that what is happening is reality. This might last for a week or a month of even more and you’ll go through multiple emotions including a sense of loneliness, despair, preoccupation with the dead person, lack of appetite and loss of sleep. If all of this is taking a toll on your physical and emotional being, don’t be afraid to turn to your support group or to professionals. If your family just lost a member, it is important for them to stick with each other and help each other out by sharing the loss with each other. If you feel you cannot connect with your family at this time, you should definitely seek professional help; you can go to your doctor or to a psychologist who will better be able to help you understand your situation. They might even give you sleeping pills or medication to help you sleep.

Emotionalists Anonymous

Emotionalists Anonymous

Going through a normal grieving process is important if you wish to eventually move on with your life and return to your normal routine without feeling depressed or guilty every time you think about the person you lost. Make sure you have a support group like family or friends or even neighbors because they can be crucial at this stage since being alone is only going to worsen and prolong the process for you.

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Credit Repair – How to Get Out of Debt and Stay Out of Debt!

By Jason Solis | Published: March 1, 2013

Some people think that it is fashionable to be in debt; Hello! News Flash! There is nothing great about being deep in debt and having debt collection agencies chasing after you here and there – who wants to live like that?!

Credit cards are not EVIL if they are used responsibly, but if you are not careful with these cards, you could end up paying off debts for the rest of your life!

If you honestly want to be out of debt within a short time, then you will need to commence on a Credit Repair campaign…fast.

Here are some really great tips to help you get out and stay of debt.

  • For the love of God! Stop Charging! Yes, this tip may seem all too obvious; but sadly, many people often fail to carryout this step. You need to know that the first step to get out of any deep hole is to simply STOP DIGGING, and debt repair is certainly no exception. After you have stopped digging, you can then figure out how to crawl out of the hole. You may need to hold your breath and cut up your credit card(s) with a very sharp pair of scissors – only keep one credit card in case of any emergency and do not carry this card around with you. Whatever you do, do not make new charges.

  • Pay off debts from the smallest to the largest. You should make minimum payments on all your credit cards, but throw everything that you possibly can at the smallest cards. This credit repair technique is the most effective.

    Credit Solutions improve your financial future

    Credit Solutions improve your financial future

  • Split your credit card minimum payments into two and make sure that you pay that sum two times in a month. Do you know that the interest on a credit card is worked out founded on the usual day to day balance of the cardholder’s account for the entire month? You will be reducing the standard balance and lowering the finance fees assessed by simply making payments every few weeks, this is opposed to staying till month’s end before making a payment.

  • Each time you get extra money, ensure that you make micro payments (also known as snowflakes). This will make your credit repair project a little easier. Send the cash made from selling stuff on eBay, garage sales, part time job, and overtime straight to your credit cards as soon as you receive them. Yes, it may not seem like a lot, but it does add up. If you decide to deposit the cash in your main checking account, there is a strong possibility that you will spend it all instead of using it later in the month to pay off outstanding debt.

    Some companies are already making strides in the micro-payment arena

    Some companies are already making strides in the micro-payment arena

You can be debt free, but it will not happen by magic, if you follow the aforementioned tips you will be out of credit card debt. Being deep in debt is not COOL! You have to tell yourself that you can do it, after all, there are men and women who embark on a credit repair project and ended up achieving their dream in the shortest possible time.

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Why Is Hollywood Is Toxic For America?

By Jason Solis | Published: February 28, 2013

America is a country quite famous for its movie industry. Known as Hollywood, there are few people in the world who have not heard about it. It is one of the most popular forms of entertainment in the country, with millions of dollars being spent and earned through the business of films. Movie goers love the films and so do the critics. Even so, there are plenty who criticize the industry since they believe Hollywood is toxic for America.

This view is actually quite popular amongst many people, even those who frequently watch the movies themselves. They view Hollywood as a problem that has grown in size and effect over the past few years and causes a number of problems. The first of these of the bad lifestyles that are promoted by the industry. People become used to seeing their favorite stars and their affluence in a movie and want to live the same life. But since this is a fantasy, it is difficult to achieve and it frustrates the audience. This is one way in which Hollywood is toxic for America.

The American public's top ten movie stars

The American public’s top ten movie stars

One of the biggest problems that the society of facing today is the loss of important institutions like love and marriage. And a blame for this also goes to the fairytale love stories seen in the movies. In the hope of finding their perfect movie romance, far too many people give up on a satisfied life and aim for impossible ideals. Such a mindset and lifestyle is quite unhealthy and leads to many problems among young and old couples alike. It shows just another way in which Hollywood is toxic for America. By trying to live the movie life, people forget real life altogether.

Hollywood has long been the benchmark by which people have measured beauty. People often compare themselves to the way characters look when they are in a movie. If men and women alike look like the movie stars, they are considered to be good looking, otherwise not. Such a perception has caused many people to feel bad about the way they look. As a result, they take up unhealthy diets and lifestyles which only does them more harm.

Just like true love, the perfect romance movie is hard to find

Just like true love, the perfect romance movie is hard to find

The effect of the movie industry is such that the audience often forgets that they are watching a fantasy and not real life. As a result, they try to live the way people do in films, which can turn out to be quite impossible. Simply put, by giving an unrealistic vision of the world, Hollywood is toxic for America.

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